Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

September 17, 2009

I’m on a [reading] roll!

In marriage, is love really enough? Now that’s a common question, don’t you think?

Having grown up in a broken home, I always thought that a good marriage was something only found in fairy tales. I was pleased to find out later on that a good, strong, faithful, and godly marriage can actually be a reality. But I always wondered, how is it possible? Do people just get lucky? Does it depend on how attractive or ‘cool’ you are as a spouse? Are people just naturally better at it than others?

I figured I wouldn’t get all my answers, but as a single woman with my family background, I always wanted to understand more about marriage. No other book explains the relationship between a husband and wife better than Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. I first heard about it through one of my former employers (and one of my mentors), Anthony Pangilinan. Shortly after, I heard about it again from my friend, Eric Villarama. Anthony and Eric both have awesome marriages (Anthony is married to Maricel Laxa and Eric is married to Donita Rose), so I made a mental note to check out this book. One year later, I’m happy that I finally got a copy!

Based on Ephesians 5:33, the book gives a fresh perspective on marriage the way God intended it to be. People can read this verse over and over again and totally miss out on what Dr. Eggerichs picked up and wrote about in detail in this book. Have you ever heard of unconditional love? Yes, right? What about unconditional respect? Now that’s something you don’t hear often.

I don’t want to spoil it because I think it’s a “must-read” for all married folks out there. And for all the single people like me, I think it’s a great book to read, too. It sheds a lot of light on the differences between men and women, so if you find yourself often having conflicts with the people around you from the opposite sex (e.g. parents, siblings, classmates, co-workers), this just might be the reference material you need. :)

By Liz

Writer, blogger, strategist, communications specialist, doodler, traveler, adventurer, author/illustrator of Art to Feed the Heart, founder of, doer of random stuff.


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    Ken Kendall

    I haven’t had a chance to get the book yet but am looking forward to it.

    Coming from the male perspective, this issue is very close to my heart. I have started a blog about how men can better love their wives. I would really appreciate it if you would take a look and give my your comments and feedback.


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    This is indeed an awesome book and a great asset to any marriage. I’ve read it and although my husband did not, I see that crazy cycle in our lives often and reference back to the book for help from time to time.

    Highly Recommended!!

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    Hi, Liz! Thanks for telling me about this book :) I can totally relate to your marriage dilemma—I was so terrified at first, because many, if not most, marriages in my family have ended in separation. But, now I’m happy I’ve taken the (wedding) plunge. Alvs is a great guy. Hmm…now realizing, I have to thank you for getting him into Summit!

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      Oh wow, I forgot about that, haha! It’s amazing how it all turned out!

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    Roceli Pintado

    Hi, Lizette! I stumbled on your blog when I was googling for the Love and Respect book. May I know where you got your copy? I haven’t had any luck with Powebooks and National Bookstore. Thanks so much!

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      Hi Roceli! Your easiest and best bet would be to get it at one of the OMF Literature bookstores. You can call them ahead of time to see if they have it in stock (you can get their contact info here: –if you can, go to the main branch at Boni…it’s like book heaven :)

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